How to Introduce Sex Toys into the Bedroom

How to introduce sex toys into the bedroom requires a bit of thought. 

Coming home from work and rushing over to your partner brandishing a foot long piece of vibrating plastic and a tub of jelly, might not be the best opening move, especially as some people have yet to experience the delights of modern sex toys. 

Sex toys are designed for the enjoyment of both partners, whether one is giving, or receiving pleasure, or both. But both parties have to be comfortable with their use, whether you’ve known your partner five days, or five years. And they are highly recommended by many sex experts, who believe that they add an extra, exciting dimension to a relationship.   

So, here’s some tips if you feel ready enough to experience the joys of sex toys. 

Firstly, and this cannot be stressed enough, make sure that both parties are willing participants. Find out if your partner has the same idea as you. Glibly getting the sex toys brochure out over the breakfast cereals is not the way forward. In your more intimate moments, bring up the subject with some degree of subtly. Environment is key here. In the bedroom, the bathroom, occupied with each other, the subject is appropriate. Suggesting it while watching East Enders is inappropriate. 

One clever way of introducing the idea is to buy your partner a sex toy as a ‘joke’ present, something that is an adult gift, on a  birthday, or Christmas, and one that can be seen as a bit of fun, between consenting adults. Just make sure no relatives, friends, or kids are around when the unwrapping takes place. Adopt the same sensitivity as if you were buying sexy clothes, or handing over a naughty card. And again, pick your moment to hand over the gift. A darkened room, soft music and few glasses of wine can all help to create the ideal mood.  

But, if you’re partner throws the sex toy straight in the bin and starts throwing kitchen knives at you, then think again. 

Second, start slowly. How about something ‘lite’, such as creams, lotions, or oils? Don’t kick off with the device that delivers multiple orgasms every five minutes and needs to be powered by the national grid. Make it a fun learning curve; start with something that is non-threatening and doesn’t give anyone a complex. 

Thirdly, don’t see the sex toy as a way of compensating for a poor relationship. They are there to enhance enjoyment, to add an element of spice into a relationship, but not to address a serious problem. They have to be seen as a bit of fun, a way of adding a twist on certain techniques and pleasures. They must not threaten, or inhibit either partner. And, they must not become addictive. You don’t have to use them all the time. Rushing to the drawer to unleash the one foot monster everytime the moment happens, is not the most sensitive approach.  

How to introduce toys into the bedroom is a delicate subject, but if you have patience and take a little care, the rewards could be huge, literally.

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